ADHD and Parent Working

by Molly

Hello, I have a son who has been diagnosed with ADHD and ODD. My son is 7 and has been suspended from school twice with numerous afterschool detentions. He is currently on medication and in between therapists.

I also have a two year old daughter. I work a full 40 hrs per week and pay for daycare for my daughter $125 per week. I am ineligible for partial programs for my son for the summer because I make to much money $32,ooo per year. I pay student loans, a car payment, insurance, co pays for therapy $25 per week. Co pay for meds. $70 per week for my 60 mile round trip commute to work 5 days a week.

Rent, food etc. It was suggested to me that I spend the summer with my son to get him on a schedule and help with his treatment for his ODD. That the only way to help him is to have him on a strict schedule and give him an overabundance of affection and support which I already try to do.

I can not get public assistance for childcare and my son was asked to be removed from two day care facilities the last two summers. My question is can I ask my employer to give me personal leave? Can I get fired for asking for 3 months off while my son is on summer break?

I want my job and have been employed there for 5yrs. But my gut and heart are telling me that if I don't take the time to help with his treatment now he will be in juvenile detention by the time he is 10.

He throws chairs and hits teachers but then calms down and regrets what he does, He is remorseful for days after he has an outburst. I need guidance and have not been able to get it from friends as they have no idea what I am experiencing.

Comments for ADHD and Parent Working

Average Rating starstarstarstarstar

Click here to add your own comments

May 09, 2011
by: TJ Chambers


You will probably need a doctors note to leave work and not get fired. You can do this under FMLA (Family Medical Leave Act). You don't get paid for your time off, so you have to make sure that you are able to do that financially.

Some employers may be understanding and let you take the time off. It doesn't sound like you think this employer will be understanding.

Learn about that here

Click here to add your own comments

Return to ADHD Message Boards.

Search This Site

The 3 Causes of ADHD Symptoms

Are you tired of struggling with your child's ADHD? Have you tried every remedy out there but nothing works?

The reason you keep "spinning your wheels" is because you didn't learn about the 3 causes of out of control ADHD symptoms first. If you put a bandaid on a splinter, you don't make things better (they can actually get worse).

Go here, Learn about The 3 Causes of ADHD Symptoms and start getting results!

Book: Victory Over ADHD

Carry On!

Hi TJ,
Glad to hear of your involvement in educating others. We need as many people as possible to carry the torch of health to others. Keep up the good work!

Jay Robb

ADHD Survival Guide

I will guide you through this website and teach you all about ADHD and how to reduce the limiting Symptoms naturally without dangerous medications, through emails delivered to your inbox over the next 30 days.

I will continue to email you with information, insight, and helpful things for ADHD


Get A FREE ADHD Assessment Test

When you sign up on our email list, we will send you to the assessment test that is freely available on our website.

This Assessment Test:

  • is available as soon as you sign up for our email list.
  • is available 24/7.
  • calculates your results as you answer the questions.
  • is like the one doctors use.

Recent Articles

  1. Herbal Medicine For ADHD

    Nov 22, 15 03:03 PM

    Looking for herbal medicine for adhd? There may not be an herbal treatment for adhd, but there are alternative treatment for adhd.

    Read more

  2. Mom thinks this cereal caused the severe rash

    Nov 20, 15 06:13 PM

    A mom took her child to the doctors because of a really bad rash that broke out on the child's leg. Unfortunately, there isn't much doctors can do besides

    Read more

  3. Did my ADHD come back as an adult?

    Nov 20, 15 11:56 AM

    I do not remember a time that I was not told by my parents that I had ADHD. As early as Kindergarden/first grade I remember how important it was to my

    Read more