Please Help!!!!! I don't know what to do....

My daughter is 7 years old and is one of Quadruplets. Since she was little I have questioned things. She is easily distracted and has a very hard time following directions, There is a lot more to this than that but I am very concerned. She was tested by the SLP at the school and is recieving services for a gap in her expressive and receptive language skills.

I am having a very hard time with her at home and am very concerned that all of this is affecting her self-esteem. My husband doesn't say very much to me about any of this so I feel very alone in making a decision to bring her to the Dr's to be evaluated. I suspect that she has ADHD or an Auditory Processing Disorder. She is very shy and quiet at school but is the complete opposite at home so I don't know if that fits with an ADHD diagnose, She rarely finishes her center work and often goes to the nurse during math and reading times.

SHe tells me that she is tired all the time and that she hates school. He work at school is up and down. The school isn't concerned enough to send her for an auditory processing evaluation or to be evaluated for ADHD. Because of this I keep doubting myself even though my gut instinct is that something is wrong. I am very worried about her and want to do everything I can for her. Also, I am very fearful of the medications used for ADHD. Does anyone have any helpful insight they can give? Right now I am grasping at straws as to what to do. One of the kiddos was also diagnosed as PDD-NOS so our household can be a pretty chaotic place at times- which I am sure is not helping.

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Sep 19, 2011
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by: Maui Rick

I totally get why you are worried about medicine. I am very new to getting treatment because I didn't like the idea of the chance of having side effects. I never liked the idea of a Dr guessing which drug would work for me. But honestly, I kick myself for not seeking help earlier because the side effects of not being treated are HUGE in comparison. I wish I would have been treated when I was young. I just had a SPECT scan of my brain. Kind of hard to argue with a picture and for the life of me, I don't understand why head doctors don't automatically look at blood flow in the brain first. Can you imagine a cardiologist giving you pills to try without looking at your heart? Just a thought. Your daughter is lucky to have you as her Mom. I wish you well.
Feb 24, 2011
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by: joniemeritt

What I can suggest is you better first seek help from an expert therapist.. Then if he is really suffering from ADHD, might say you have to prepare your self.. I know it's quite hard at first.

Sending them to a therapeutic boarding schools for children with ADHD can help them understand their condition and learn ways on how to manage it. School can be quite a struggle for children with ADHD, especially mainstream educational institutions.


Feb 15, 2011
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by: Deborah Merlin

Have you checked your daughter's thyroid?

The HANDLE Institute can help with auditory problems. To find a practitioner in your area,http://www.handle.org

Naturopathic doctors can help with ADHD naturally.
To locate one in your area go to
www.naturopathic.org

Visit my website at http://www.victoryoveradhd.com for more information.
Feb 15, 2011
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starstarstarstarstar 		What about her diet?
by: TJ Chambers

Can you tell us what her diet is like? Diet is crucial for any disorder but it can be affected by any number of things.

As an example, check out the list I made towards the bottom of this page as possible causes of ADHD.
Feb 15, 2011
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by: Anonymous

I did make some calls today only to be told that the school usually refers for the ADHD evaluation. My problem is that she presents as a very quiet, shy child at school making it that much harder for me to get them to see what is going on! Her behavior at home is the total opposite! It's like she is holding it all in until she comes home. She is having difficulty getting all of her center work done at school and is forgetful. She is also getting some help from the SLP for a gap in her processing abilities.She is always telling me that she hates school and that it is hard. SHe alos complains that she is tired a lot more than any 7 year old should. I feel that it is because she is putting her best foot forward but it is a challenge and it makes her tired. I am going to keep pushing though. My gut tells me that something is wrong and I don't want her to have to continue to struggle.
Feb 15, 2011
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by: Anonymous

hi, sorry to hear that u having these problems
if your daughter is diagnosed with adhd or something else, at least she can then get the right treatment to help her cope better at school. i am an identical triplet.. im 22yr old and im goin for tests shortly for similar thing. i aways had problems at school, was behind, i hated school, hated meeting new people. always had a high energy inside and wished i hadnt. because sometimes people ask if im on drugs. im not. im jus a hyper person. ive always been distracted by things and my mind drifts off. i sometimes blurt out things aswell only to regret saying it. i only say that if its adhd or something alse it helps to learn to understand the disorder so you can help your daughter and keep a good relationship going.. its hard for someone like that when noone understands and takes that little bit of time to listen. hope this helps

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